Dating Mistakes During Divorce
As much as a new relationship can lift your spirits and make you forget about stress, there are risks to dating during divorce. There are legal, emotional, and relational precautions that you should heed if you are in the middle of a divorce. Following the guidelines below will save you from unnecessary arguments, heartache, and legal trouble as you move through the divorce process.
If you are dating, be aware of the following precautions:
- Dating may affect your divorce, especially if there is already tension between you and your ex. Dating is legally adultery until your divorce is filed. (Oklahoma still maintains fault ground for divorce.)
- Dating is usually considered marital misconduct, even if you have been separated for a long time.
- You new boyfriend or girlfriend may come under scrutiny if you are going through a divorce, creating issues in your new relationship.
- Child custody may be jeopardized if your spouse believes your new boyfriend or girlfriend is a danger to your children and the court agrees.
- Your alimony and child support may be affected if you move in with a new love interest.
- Openly dating during divorce can mentally impact your children, causing them to pull back from your relationship, or to side with your ex. This can affect visitation, and the familiar structure.
The risks of dating are mostly based upon dating openly, in front of your ex-spouse and children. Although it is safer to date secretly, the safest bet is to wait until you are past the filing process, and your divorce is sent off for approval. It’s worth it to wait.
If you are truly ready to move on, and feel that you have a right to date, there are ways to do it cautiously, and with the least impact on your divorce proceedings and children.
Ways to date with less negative impact:
- Go out in groups and keep it light. Being seen out and about with a group is much less suspicious and will minimize gossip.
- Talk with your lawyer about implications of dating and how it can legally impact your divorce. If you are at a point that is too risky, your lawyer will let you know.
- Keep your children and your dating life separate. It is best to keep new boyfriends or girlfriends out of your home life until you know that the relationship is serious and set a time frame such as waiting 4 months before introducing your children. Set a standard for your children that you are their constant and that you are not bringing new people in and out of their lives. They will benefit from having your undivided attention, and from seeing your respect for their parent and the relationship.
- Be honest with the new people you meet. If you meet someone that you want to pursue, let them know that you are going through a divorce. It will help explain why you are avoiding certain situations, or why you are taking things slowly.
Protect Yourself from Divorce Mistakes
If you are facing a divorce, and are unsure of how to proceed, our team can help. We will work with you to make sure that you do not make any mistakes along the way. Our team of divorce attorneys at the Law Offices of Keith J. Nedwick, P.C. know the Oklahoma divorce laws well, and we know how dating can impact your divorce. Don’t risk losing out on property division, alimony and child support by jumping into a public relationship. Play it smart, and we will help you have the smoothest, quickest divorce possible.
Contact our team today at (866) 590-8173.